Well, I've taken in a stray. J's girlfriend is staying with us now. The two of them live in the big room in the basement like a couple. Sigh. I really never considered ever doing this. When they were little I never gave this kind of future much thought, but here it is anyway.
J was spending a lot of time at GF's house as I mentioned before but last weekend GF's mom told J he's not welcome any more. According to her, J told her younger daughter (GF's sister) not to come home that night. Then the sister got hit by a car and broke her neck, shoulder, arm and foot (she's doing ok and released from the hospital after a few days). So now J isn't welcome in the house because if he hadn't told the sister not to come home, she wouldn't have been hit by the car. J and GF tell me that J told sister not to bring This Guy home as he's not a good guy and mom gave sister $20 knowing that sister would find a way to buy alcohol with it and black out. Oh yeah, sister is 12 years old.
So anyway, I agreed with the mother that J isn't welcome there, he has no right to say who comes and goes out of that house. While I was on the phone with the mother she told me that GF and J are inseparable (true) and I can take GF too, she'd sign over the rights and everything. Um. Ok. I'm definitely not ready to have a teenage daughter, but thanks. I didn't tell the mother what I'd decided, but told GF she can stay here under three conditions: no drugs or alcohol in the house, no smoking in the house, and she has to go to school. She agreed.
Then she skipped school. J and GF said it was too cold. Ok, it was in the -25C range but really, this is Alberta, they should be used to it. I looked at GF's thin little hoodie and asked her if that was the warmest coat she had. It was. Her shoes had holes too. So we went shopping where I bought her a warm hoodie, shoes (I've given up on getting teens to wear boots), condoms and various other little things. Now there are no excuses. They skipped again. I flipped out. I was very unpleasant when I informed J that GF will have to move out if they skip again. Because the school can't release info about GF to me as I'm not her guardian, I will go by whether or not J attends. He skips, she moves out that same day.
On the upside, I've seen more of J than I have in months. He's even eating dinner with us! For now.